These are the experiences of some women, we are all different, yet sometimes, so alike, therefore, in the end, there it’s just one question : when a woman you know or one that you just met tells you she’s a lesbian or her friends do, what do you (straight lady or not) do? If you’re straight you’re just curious and have a conversation, if you don’t know your real feelings or sexuality you’re intrigued by her every move, look, smile or act….and a new journey to yourself begins. Beyond being curious or in search for your own sexuality, you can have real chemistry with another woman without having just a crush or a fling, you’re not just had too much too drink and you really feel attracted to her, would you have the courage to be in love with another woman?
Or maybe you had these feelings before, but you didn’t dare to explore them. You have felt certain heats and hearts for your teacher, your mother’s best friend or a school colleague. You couldn’t explain those feelings and just went with the flow of dating guys or just leave them there without being able to follow their lead and not able to be truly happy with a man.
I believe everything happens with a purpose, one day there will be a she that will respond and correspond to everything the law of attraction and chemistry, why not love, can mean for you. You need to trust your feelings and to know your true self and give it credit, follow your heart and your dreams, even that doesn’t mean an awesome career or a big wealth and an important social position through a husband and be free for the very first time, in love for the very fist time.
Be an „Elena Undone” and everything falls apart, yet she lived the happiest moments ever and in time her kids understood and the whole small town community accepted, even though not understood the former preacher’s wife falling in love with another woman.
Be a „Carol” even if the whole world is against you and you have to take a fatal decision to search for happiness, not selfishness, but true nature of your feelings.
Be a Tala from „I can’t think straight”, if you have doubts, call of the Indian wedding and fall in love with the real love of your life.
Be a Isabel from “Tierra de Lobos” and deny your father’s will to marry someone he has chosen for you just to target his scopes.
Be yourself, love whom you feel you truly need, love your heart and understand your soul and let them melt into something real, of course it involves risks : fragility of love in a world who doesn’t care, what if she doesn’t feel the same, you’re new to this and you don’t know what to do, being misunderstood by society, disrespected at work and so much more, yet those are things ruled by a society that at one point will change and accept all there is about human nature, just like that the ancient world did and focus on real problems : world peace, hunger, natural disasters.
How can a lesbian be spotted
All the small things : she’s making use of seemingly solicitous body languages with fellow women such as touching, staying close, and checking out other women, she’s making comments and jokes about dating or feeling attraction for fellow women, she never talks of feeling any attraction for a man
Her answers : Take note of her pronouns. When talking about an ex or present partner, does she say her ex-boyfriend or simply her ex?
Take note of your pronouns. If you are gay, bi, or pan, and feel comfortable coming to this girl, always talk about your ex-girlfriend or the girl I once went out with, and see how she relates. When asking her about her love life, don’t ask her if she has a boyfriend. Rather, say something like, are you presently seeing someone? Do this with everyone you have around you. It will amaze you to discover the number of people that would appreciate you didn’t tag them gays.
Her mannerism : she practices the dyke flirtatious smile most often, it is a sign of her sexual preference. Doing the dyke smile is easy; simply use the fusion of a lingering eye contact, bent head and controlled smile. You don’t still get it right? Don’t worry, when you see it, you will know it. Also, is she always staring lingeringly for an unusually long time.
Her clothes : Once you sight a woman wearing a hat or T-shirt that reads, Vegetarian, or I’m a lesbian, the normal thing to assume is that she is deep into women.
Any woman you see adorning a tans right or gay t-shirt, a pink or rainbow triangle pin, or some marriage equality sticker, she is either trying to be identified as an ally or LGBT. It is still not easy to know her sexuality except she tells you, but you don’t have to feel unsafe about opening yourself to him.
Her hair : The first point to note is that no straight woman will wear a Mohawk or faux hawk. So whenever you see any woman wearing this haircut, it is a clear indication that she is definitely a lesbian. The second clear point is that every short hair is quite suspicious, though not a clear indication that one is gay, so judge cautiously. The third point to note is that if she is not a model in one futuristic-themed event fashion show, or acting as a character in an animated film, or into some Cosplay, wearing too much hair gel shows she may not be a straight girl.
Any girl you see wearing a barber’s cut or military cut with lots of hair gel in it is usually 80% lesbian, except the ones that have been enlisted in the armed forces. The fourth point to note is that Messy bob and bieber-ish cuts accentuated with a Nirvanna smiley shirt, Vans, hoodie, DC and penny boards is a way of saying I’m not ashamed of being a lesbian.
And lastly, wearing an I don’t give a fuck anymore or an asymmetrical cut and a shaved hair can also help identify a lexbo. However, some possible exceptions include that she recently broke up with her boyfriend, she is going through life crisis, she takes a lot of pills and drugs or is part of then Britney fans club. Else, she might be a lesbian.
Nota bene: Not all lesbians carry this type of hairdo but most often, women who carry it are lesbians.
Her short fingernails : Lesbians have sharp and trimmed nails. If the particular lady you are interested in has some half-inch long nails, it is obvious she is not a lesbian.
Nota bene: If she has long nails and appears to be a gay, take a look at her middle or index finger. These two fingers are the working fingers. Once you trim these two fingers, there are chances that she could be gay. Nail extensions and all artificial nails are not options here. Once you see this, it simply shows that she is more straight than a ruler.